Wednesday, August 5, 2009

Not Moving In - Double The Stuff or Lug It Back And Forth?

I have always been the type of girl that likes her own space. I've posted on it, I talk about it, and on date 10 or so I generally bring it up to anyone I'm seeing in case they think that someday I'll be the type of girl that likes to move in.
Not that I won't, just that I don't really like it. For example, I moved in with a boyfriend several years ago and told him that his closet would have to be in another room since all of my clothes were completely filling the one in the bedroom. He took his arm, SHOVED my clothes to the side leaving a foot or so of empty bar space and said "yeah there is, look!" He made it one month after that.
So now, I'm dating the New Jersey-ite and we had talked about moving in but I have a lease that goes for a few more months so he decided to get his own place. Fine. Great.
But it's disrupted the flow of things. It used to be that my place was much nicer so we spent a lot of nights there and he brought a lot of stuff over and everything was all good.
Now, he likes his place a lot so I have to go and buy another set of stuff to put over there.
Girls back me up on this: If you are splitting your time between 2 apartments you are either lugging a huge bag back and forth, sometimes forgetting things you absolutely NEED or you are buying a whole other set of stuff.
The case for back and forth - this is certainly more economical than buying 2 sets of everything. I am a fan of nice hair equipment (straighteners, dryers, etc.) and face products so buying two would be a major investment and if we ever do move in it would also be a major waste.
On a very pessimistic note: less to pack up if you break up.

The case for doubling up - much more convenient and I can have a small purse vs. the massive Urban Outfitter bag (which I love but am sick of now). Also, you have less moments spent looking for an item that you left at the other house.


Anonymous Anonymous said...

I doubled up on face creams and lugged the hairdryer (etc.) back and forth. Designate a bag and then just pack it all in there. Don't try and switch the "lugging bag" that is just asking for disaster.Good luck!

August 5, 2009 at 4:23 PM  
Blogger Kafreen said...

In the years a previous boyfriend and I spent going back and forth to one another's apartments, I took to carrying a bag dubbed "the suitcase" by my friends. I swear that thing gave me lasting shoulder problems.

My solution: keep backup bare essentials at work. In a pinch, you can make yourself pretty there, and don't have to lug.

August 5, 2009 at 4:36 PM  
Blogger Raff said...

You crack me up....Viva New Jersey!

August 6, 2009 at 3:27 AM  
Blogger La Petite Belle said...

i think you could both give up the apartments, put the money together GET A NICE, BIG PLACE WITH TONS OF CLOSET SPACE and tons of space for you. There. problem solved ;)

August 6, 2009 at 5:50 AM  
Blogger Caitlin said...

Haha, try breaking a lease with these mafia-type rental places... they are terrible! :)
I was thinking that lugging might not be soooo bad if I got a really nice new bag to carry it in.
I like "the suitcase" idea.

August 6, 2009 at 8:56 AM  
Blogger Grace Boyle said...

I hate doubling up. I am frustrated that economically it's not efficient but I also feel like I want my own space, so I'm careful (and weary) about moving in with a significant other.

What usually happens is I have a big purse/bag that I keep my essentials in. It comes with me (stays in the car, work, etc.) and I keep my facial products and hair stuff in there. It's kind of like you're always on vacation and have a to-go travel bag.

Clothing-wise, I begin to keep things at his house. However, if I have my own place that I love I like to keep my area and closet mostly updated because it's nice to get ready at your own place, with all the essentials and even the non-essentials but fun accessories, etc. that I want for a night out or something.

Definitely not an easy situation. What you decided to do?

August 6, 2009 at 10:35 AM  
Blogger Caitlin said...

I'm not sure yet so I'm sort of shuttling things back and forth but I kind of feel homeless.....

I'm digging in my purse at the coffeeshop today and I'm passing through face lotion, contact cases, and a tank top :)

August 6, 2009 at 1:27 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

:) glad to hear things are well

- Monster

August 12, 2009 at 3:48 PM  

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