Smile Like you Mean It: I'll Be There In The Blackout

Friday, May 22, 2009

brooklyn said...: you know first hand, i don't think anyone should ever listen to me regarding relationship advice. all i can say is what goes on in my world, and how i've handled my situations. i too have always always always kept a whole section of my life secret from guys in the past. . . but with this one, things are different. he knows all aspects and has seen me in all elements of my life. and it's actually refreshing. even tho we can't see eachother during the week, we always talk (if not throughout the day, then always at night before bed.)

Again, I don't ever claim to be a good source for advice, but I know that when I realized I was really starting to love him, I wanted to show him all aspects of my life, and introduce him to all of my friends (near and far) and bring him to all events that make me happy.

But that's not something you should have to force. Sure you could try to attend one of his events or social gatherings, and he could do that for you, but if you both are really unhappy going to said events, I'd be afraid you might resenting eachother for it. . .

it's a slippery slope for sure, but you just have to make sure that the life you're sharing with him is AT LEAST equal to or greater than the life you're not sharing with him. I think that's the balance you're looking for.; May 23, 2009 at 9:10 AM